I'm happy to say that I think we have hit all these marks. We've been using the fitteds I made with fleece covers overnight for Johnny with much success. The fitted diapers are pocket style so they dry easily and we've found stuffing them with 2 inserts works well. The fleece cover keeps Johnny's clothes from getting soaked and everyone is happy. We still have the flushables around and I did use them this week to help battle Izzy's rash. She still has a bit of a rash that keeps coming back. I might have to strip the inserts and try adding Funk Rock to our washing routine. Or we could just potty train her. As for cloth wipes, John and I have been using them every day for every change. I like them a lot better than the disposables. Finally, the wash routine: I think this is always going to be a challenge, but I feel as though I have more of a handle on it. The RNG is getting our inserts clean beyond belief -- after a 10-15 minute soak and several rinses the stains are usually gone. Tougher stains have sunned out in the time it takes for the inserts to dry. I actually prefer the hand-washing to our washing machines downstairs. I know our inserts are getting cleaned and rinsed thoroughly. Sometimes it is better to just do things yourself!
I promise there is a video on hand-washing planned. I forgot that shooting video is not like shooting photos and I filmed everything in portrait when it needs to be in landscape. Oops.